Sis Dolly answers some burning questions from our readers
Question

 I have a problem – I’m too quick to have sex with guys.

Not all guys, just certain ones. I don’t have a boyfriend, but I’ve always had a friend with benefits. I hate my life now because I always agree to have sex with guys who are in relationships, and after sleeping with me they go back to their girlfriends and I’m left feeling like a fool.

 I always feel used, but then I do the same thing with another guy. I don’t know what’s wrong with me. The last guy I slept with is one of my colleagues and now that we’ve had sex, we no longer speak like we used to.

He’s now sleeping with another one of our colleagues. I know he’s not my boyfriend, but it still hurts me to see them together. I want to stop this, but I don’t know what to do or how to behave.



Answer

 It’s a good thing you’ve acknowledged that what you’re doing isn’t good for you, and that you want to do something about it.

You’ve now reached a point where you want to execute change.

You need to ask yourself what it is that you want for yourself and your life.

 You’re able to recognise that what you’re doing isn’t working – what you need to do now is improve your self-esteem and not give in to temptation when guys show an interest in you.

 You need to believe that you’re worthy of having someone in your life who loves you and is committed to you.

This will help you steer clear of guys who are just looking for sexual favours and then ignore you or run off once they’ve been intimate with you. Stop selling yourself short.

 According to Bolde we all want honesty in our lives and relationships and the only way to get it is to live by the law of attraction and to give it with good reason. Exposing a lie like this is a good reason.

 If you were being cheated on, you would want to know so you can make an informed choice of whether the relationship you had was worth saving and working things out or walking away from for good.

Stop selling yourself short.